A man should be physically strong. A man has strength, endurance and temperance of steel. A man is willing to assume masculine burdens. I read that a man earns his bread by the sweat of his face. He is proud when his masculine duties are fulfilled. He delights in opportunities to serve, particularly when there are great physical demands, and shoulders this obligation, and has fun doing it.
My wife asked me to build a small raised garden in the back. I did. 2x12s and a lot of bags of top soil, compost and dirt.
I carried the dirt (shouldered them) from the driveway, through the house to the back yard. 2.5 cubic yards. 100 feet. About 45 minutes. Done quickly. Done well.
As a man does his tasks well, his woman is free to do her best at her duties, all the while assured of a strong man.
The King's Guide is intended to be a guide for men. Specifically, men who are unafraid to be masculine. A masculine man is purposeful, confident and driven. And this man is also totally turned on by the feminine. He loves his woman. Dedicated to her - through his work and his sexuality.
The King's Guide is written for men who have achieved an understanding of other genders and sexual preferences, who consider men and women to be social, economic, and political equals, but they want to live a fulfilled life that celebrates sexual and spiritual passions inherent in the masculine and feminine polarities.
In a healthy relationship, I believe you have to have a masculine and a feminine. As they say, opposites attract. This seems to be true in homosexual relationships as well as heterosexual ones. Sexual polarity (masculine vs. feminine) is not dependent upon gender. But you still need two different, opposing polarities of personal characteristics in a good, healthy relationship. And I'm familiar enough with the heterosexual male masculine role to write about it, at least in my own personal experiences.
A man's most important role is to be the king - the one who guides, protects and provides for his wife and family. This is a masculine role.
It has been written that a man is the head of the family. In the beginning, the roles of Adam and Eve were defined by the instructions given to them. Eve was to desire her husband, and that he was to rule over her. Apostle Paul wrote that the husband is the head of the wife, just as Jesus Christ is the head over the church. And just as believers follow Christ, so the wife shall follow her husband in everything.
But what do these things that were written 2,000 years ago mean in today's reality?
What might we learn from the biblical roles that have been written? What, if anything, can we learn that which has been written in the past about sexually masculine and feminine roles? How might those things be applied to our present-day lives? For many households such as single-parent families, these roles of being husband and wife are not realized. And because I am not familiar enough with gay and lesbian partnerships and marriages, I will not be commenting much upon how roles play in those situations. However, it is commonly understood that in many loving relationships (straight, traditional, gay, non-traditional, lesbian, etc.) there is one person who has a more masculine characteristic and one that is more feminine. And the opposing, yet sexually attractive, types of personalities can make that relationship very exciting and enduring.
To be a guide, protector and provider, takes work. Hard work. In Genesis, it is written that a man will eat only after working up a sweat on his face. He's got to work in order to eat. Whew! And, this command was divinely given to the man specifically. The commandment to the woman was to be the man's helper. Eve was told to help Adam work hard.
Some say that the complications of our modern times require men and women to change what has been written before. Yet, for many men and women today, God's instructions to Adam and Eve are as valid today as when first given. It just works for them. Others discount these commandments, prefer to alter God's intention and plans, and create a suitable substitute that works for them. Personally, I have yet to find and study an alternative that works better for me and my wife than the one that is built upon loving obedience to each other by proper arrangement and deliberate decision.
Unconditional love is the key, sweeping over both of you in fathomless billows. Masculine and feminine energies add the spice of life to a healthy, passionate relationship.
You may be interested in reading "You Need Opposites" from The King's Guide.
I think about 85% of people, men and women, heterosexual or homosexual have either a nature (physically, mentally, sexually) that is more masculine than feminine or more feminine than masculine. Most people have a certain essence in their being.
Do you like to watch football and boxing? Or do you prefer love stories and dramas? Can you kill a spider? Or do you prefer to ask someone else to do it for you? Or maybe you enjoy doing both.
Would you rather have your sexual partner stronger than you? Or would you rather be the one who lovingly ravishes? Do you want to be swept off your feet? Or do you want to be the knight in shining armor? Or maybe you're turned on by both.
For most people, they would prefer to be either the initiator in a healthy sexual relationship or the receiver, the ravisher or the ravishee. Sexual polarity is important in their relationship. About 15% are neutral and have a balanced nature about themselves and sexual polarity is not that important to their loving relationship.
Either way, if you want a good, healthy relationship (physically, mentally, and spiritually), you ought to know your sexual nature. Are you more masculine, more feminine, or are you neutral? Figure that out. It shouldn't be too difficult. And then live true to your nature.
To thine own self be true.
If you have a masculine nature, a manly sexual essence, then you're likely driven by a mission in life. You feel you're living to the fullest and sense a deep purpose for living. Deep down, you're happy when you're focused and directed toward your goal and mission in life. And if you don't have direction in life, you've lost your job for example, then you feel empty and uncomfortable.
If you have a more feminine nature, a womanly sexual essence, then you're likely successful in life because you're core is filled and flowing with love, love from your partner and love from your family. You're intimate relationships are at your core in life and you're moved to improve those relationships and bonds of love and intimacy. And if you don't have a loving relationship with a partner or with your core friends, then you feel empty and uncomfortable.
The masculine tends to be driven by a mission, and the feminine tends to be motivated by the creation of love. Which one are you?