The King's Guide Rating: 78 out of 100

This Spanish wine is dark ruby red in color. Pour it into a big bold red wine glass. 

The smell is a powerful, blackberry, and herbal. 

The taste is sweet cherry, vanilla and cola that fills and coats the mouth with a little acidity. Tannins are supple and felt at the long finish with some flower petal hints. 

We tested and paired it with some Spanish dishes with lamb and cured meats. This wine comes from La Mancha, a region located on an arid but fertile, elevated plateau of central Spain, south of Madrid.

Learn more about tannins in red wine.

Wild Horse Ride

Everything begins with a thought, and anything can arise from thinking. 

This can be good, because all things are therefore possible. And it can be bad, because without understanding how the mind works, our lives can be like riding a wild horse at night. 

The mind: 

• can be renewed and shaped so that it serves us and takes us where we want to go; or
• without training, the mind will do as it pleases. 

When investigating certain spiritual truths, without accepting metaphysical abstractions, one important factor for a man to consider is that all around us, many people are not happy - they're suffering. They are dissatisfied, unhappy, and not content with their current situation. 

And the root all suffering comes from an uncontrolled mind. 

People Around You Are Suffering

We've all heard stories of wealthy and famous people being very troubled. We may know folks who have every reason to be happy, but are not. Some talented, attractive people I know just seem downright miserable. Our own lives can be filled with interruptions, emergencies, painful experiences, pressures, and confusion. 

There are some folks who never sit in one spot. They're always on the move, onto the next big thing, a new place to go, and a greater thing to do. Their calendars are filled. They speak and do with insistent energy to enhance and consume even the most simplest life experiences. Never really satisfied with what they've got. 

And many people are in real pain, physically and mentally.

It's amazing how resilient we are. We can suffer on and on, and we still keep on going.

What Can We Do?

What can a man do to help not only others but ourselves from the dissatisfaction, discontentment, and suffering that may be experienced in life?

Unfortunately, many turn to religion or other man-made dogma with teachings based upon fear, which are not worth our time to study. Let's think for a moment.

The Buddha said, 

• "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” 
  

Proverbs 23:7 reads,

• For as she thinketh in her heart, so is she.
  

Since joy, peace, and love all depend upon the mind, might it make sense to learn how the mind works? Yes.

Meditation

The true goal of meditation is to learn how to work with the mind to connect you with everything else in the universe. Once you can realize that your "self" is not separate, but connected, to everything in the cosmos, then you can live a life that is satisfied, content, undisturbed, no matter the situation, no matter the location or time. The ultimate goal to meditating, or focused believing, is to be satisfied (living a life filled with joy, peace, and love), no matter what's going on. 

Once you understand how to control or transform your mind, body, and feelings, you find power and strength. It's written in heavenly texts, "

• Be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewal of your mind.
  

To get there, a man must continually work on building a healthy mind. That takes some training. Not all of us are enlightened, living and walking in the Light. And, I know that it's far better for me to be more enlightened that I usually am. So, it makes sense for me to learn more about what's really going on. 

To Understand How Things Really Are

People suffer with their lives needlessly. Most people tend to worry, doubt, and fear themselves to death. To suppress these feelings, they seek one temporary pleasure after another, hoping to satisfy their dissatisfaction. This can be very stressful. 

To make the world a better place, we need to understand the nature of consciousness, our thoughts, our minds, and how things really are. Sam Harris writes in his book Waking Up:

• "But it is your mind, rather than circumstances themselves, that determines the quality of your life. Your mind is the basis of everything you experience and of every contribution you make to the lives of others. Given this fact, it makes sense to train it." 
  

You Are the Reason for Suffering

Making your world better and living a life that is fulfilled and enlightened does not come from without, but from within. People suffer because that's what they think. 

The Buddha said, 

• "You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” 

Suffering comes from the mind, not from the world. The world does not cause you to suffer, you do. Your own mind does. Your mind determines if you're suffering or not suffering. Your mind determines how you experience something that is good or bad in your life, regardless of whether it's actually good or bad. Even Shakespeare knew this to be true when Hamlet said:

• "For there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

It Makes Sense to Train the Mind

It makes sense, therefore, to train the mind. To train our minds to see things as they really are, we can stop suffering, transcend ourselves, and achieve a state of well-being and connectedness to each other and with the cosmos (the universe, the Spirit, God). 

It's written in heavenly texts that the two most important acts of developing well-being and sustaining enlightenment is through the love of Spirit and serving others, even total strangers. Matthew 22:37-39 reads: 

• "Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."

Joy, peace, and unconditional love can only be experienced by continuously training a healthy mind (consciousness) and being in alignment and harmony with the Spirit. As you serve others by helping them break free from this world, renew their minds, free their bodies, and become mindful of what is actually happening in their lives, you will find power, love and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 reads: 

• "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but the spirit of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."

Conclusion

To have joy, peace, and love in life, one must train the mind.  

Let's learn more about that in "To Bring Suffering to an End, One Must Think" from The King's Guide.

... and we're back.  

Looking is a great way for a man to collect information. If you get a man's attention, you may want to consider why. Here are the top five reasons why masculine men look at feminine women, starting with the least important reason. 

#5 Nice Hair

To have nice hair, you need a healthy body. Shiny hair comes from within. Fat in the diet makes nice hair. Nice, shiny hair means that there's a healthy body producing that beautiful hair. A few million years ago, this information was critical to survival. The average caveman lived only about 20 years. In that short time frame, he had to spend limited resources to find a healthy, fertile mate. Shiny hair was an easy indication. Have men come along way since then? Not really. Our DNA is just about the same. But nice hair is not that important. A nice shape is. 

#4 Nice Shape

Butts. There are all kinds. And no matter what shape woman has, some guy is lovin' it. What's surprising to women is that a man's ideal shape for a woman is not a Barbie-look-alike, nor is it a size 2. Men like curves. Men love the love handles. Thighs that rub against each other are a turn-on. Men love all kinds of bodies. We love less make-up and more body. 

Here are two questions for women to ask their men: 

• What's your favorite part of my body? and 
• Why?
  

I bet the answers will be pleasantly surprising. Pleasantly? Yes. Because the woman who knows what her man loves about her physical body is a woman who has a satisfied, loyal, and loving man. If she's got what he's into, then she's got a good man to keep. And if a woman wants to have a sexy body, she's got to dump all notions of what the world says is sexy. 

Desiree Dean writes in The Manual for Her: Uncensored: 

• "This is an important idea that us, as women, can learn from men. We all need to forget about society's notions of what is perfect and start to love ourselves. This is how you get lost in the moment with your man and allow two to become one. This is how you become a sex goddess and the ultimate seductress."
  

But looks aren't everything. Sensuality is more important than shiny hair and a nice butt. So, let's go to #3.

#3 Sensuality

If a woman feels sexy, then she is sexy. Sensuality comes from indulging in simple pleasures. It could be enjoying a bite to eat, a particular song, the outdoor air, something that you're wearing, anything. Being sensual means that you're paying attention, really focused, on that one particular pleasure. And when a woman is sensual, it's a turn on for men. 

Alison Armstrong writes in her book Making Sense of Men: 

• "Have you ever tried to spice up your sex life with some lingerie? After listening to men, I figured out that when you buy lingerie, the trick is to buy the lingerie that turns you on. Buy the lingerie that causes you to go, "Whoa!" when you look in the mirror. Because if you're feeling sexy, you are sexy. And, if lingerie doesn't do it for you, wear what does. You can feel sexy in your sweat pants, and you can feel sexy in nothing!"
  

But to enjoy feeling sensual, you have to first believe that you're sexy. Let's look at #2, sexiness.

#2 Sexiness

If a woman believes she's sexy, then she is. Heavenly texts of Proverbs 23:7 says: 

• "For as she thinks in her heart, so is she."

Spending money on gym workouts, new clothes, make-up and hair does not come anywhere close to the return on investing in believing in yourself. When a woman believes she's looking good, then she's really got it goin' on and then some. A woman can spend thousands of dollars to make herself look attractive, but it won't work without spending a few mindful moments mediating upon how she awesomely believes in herself. This means that you can have nasty hair and big booty, and if you believe in yourself, your man is lovin' it. 

Sensuality (#3) and sexiness (#2) are for men like honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to their bones. Men notice sensuality in our women. We observe how our woman believes in herself, not just physically, but also emotionally, socially, economically, politically, etc. Women can be masculine. Yes. But femininity requires a special force of life and spirituality, which is very attractive to masculine men. We dig that stuff. 

Men look. Men see. We tend to notice our women who have learned what energies make her femininity alluring.

We love looking. But let's get to the #1 reason why men look at women.

#1 Believing

The number one, most attractive thing a man looks at in a woman is her believing. How a woman believes in herself as a spiritual, enlightened being is so attractive, it's irresistible for a man. #2 is not even close. Believing is sexy. 

And I'm not talking about Crash Davis's believing in the Bull Durham movie. I'm not talking about simple self-confidence. I'm referring to believing. Spiritual believing. It's that which makes a woman so incredible, her man would do anything to be with her, care for her, protect her, and promise to love her until death do they part. 

Conclusion

Men look, but it's a woman's believing that's most seductive. 


For further reading:

• Spirituality is Achieved Mentally from The King's Guide.
  
• The Queen's Guide is for women who want to learn more about men. 
  

I was snorkeling in the Mesoamerican Barrier Reef System off the coast of Akumal, Mexico. It's the second largest barrier reef system on Earth. I saw amazing coral and fish on a grand scale. If I didn't know I was on Earth, it would have seemed extraterrestrial. 

As I was swimming into shore, I realized that there is a great deal of very small things to look at in both the deep and shallow waters. The biodiversity is stunning in both the large and very small. There are wonderfully complex creatures living sea shells that are too small for my fingers to pick up. There are schools of hundreds of fish that hide under the smallest stony coral. I got to watch them for the longest time. 

And it made me think. 

Me. Coral reef. Hot sun. Crystal clear ocean water. Surrounded by life beyond my imagination. It was one of those moments. Or, maybe it was the lingering effects of the margaritas de la casa shared with my wife the night before. Not sure. But it was an extraordinary moment of mindfulness and insight.

• A Christian might say that I experienced being with God. 
  
• A Hindu might say I experienced my eternal self of which all minds are a part. 
  
• A Buddhist might say I dreamed of apparent things of the cosmic emptiness. 
  
• A spiritualist might say I was connected with the Universal Energy of Consciousness. 

As a rational person, I say that I lost myself in a connection with everything. For a brief moment, I was in a state of all of the above. And a funny story came to mind. 

Freedom to Choose

It's a story I heard a while ago. It's not according to the bible, but its cute. And it goes like this. God was lining up all of the life of the world and giving each living thing an opportunity to choose what they want to become. And each had to choose which tool to use in their life. For example, the dog chose a voice to bark; the bird chose wings to fly; the fish chose gills to breathe underwater; etc. 

Eventually God comes to the last living thing and asks what it would like to become. And the human being chooses to stay just as it is, but makes one request -- that God grant the human being the ability to choose and use any available tools throughout its lifetime. 

I Can Do All Things

I can sing, fly, swim, and run. I can do all things. It's even written in heavenly texts that I can.

• Philippians 4:13, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

It's by my decision to believe in the power that works within me that I can do all things. In Ephesians we read that we have power within ourselves that was given to us by Spirit, which is able to do abundantly above all that we could ever dream of.

• Ephesians 3:20, "Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us."

If we see ourselves in a way that is singular, static, and finite, then we limit ourselves. We become like the tropic fish that I saw in the coral reef. The fish were beautiful and wonderous, for sure, but still a bit limited. Limitations are stressful because they can create suffering and dissatisfaction in your life. 

Just like a rope that has been tied around your whole body. Limitations feel very frustrating.

Bring Suffering to an End

If we can fully understand, believe with our minds and heart, that we have the God-given right, freedom, and means to live an unlimited, abundant, powerful life, then we can be in charge of our happiness, joy, peace, and love in our lives. We can believe to bring suffering, stress, doubt, worry, and fear to an end. 

If you want true happiness in your life, if you want to live a life that is more than abundant, filled with love, if you want to learn what to do in your life that will bring long-term well-being, you've got to control your mind. The Buddha taught that the mind is everything. That's correct. 

• Buddha, "The mind is everything. What you think, you become."
  

The mind is the key to power in your life. 

Imagine a luxury car in your driveway. Let's say it's sleek, modern, and luxurious, with a ton of horsepower, 0-60 mph in 5 seconds, two-stage resonance intake manifold with six plus one switchable valves, 7-speed manual transmission, and sports seats with smooth-finish leather interior. And your sexy woman is holding the key. Hamana hamana.

That's the powerful life that is available to you.

Both the car and the hot woman are right there in your driveway! God always wants the best for you. You have the choice and freedom to believe and decide what to do. The key to power is the renewed mind. Are you going to reach for that key?

By renewing our mind, we're not conformed to this world, but, instead, we are transformed. And in doing so, there is cause and effect. We can prove to ourselves and others the results of renewing the mind. It's written in Romans. 

• Romans 12:2, "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God." 

Without the key, the power remains dormant, potential power. You turn on the power with the key, your mind. 

But my mind right now might be limited. I might be thinking that I'm more like a tropical fish than a child of God with unlimited power inside myself. To grab the key, the woman, and the car in life, I have to get my mind right. And that takes some training. I call it renewing the mind. 

Jesus Christ's Mind

A great example of a man who renewed his mind was Jesus Christ. In his day and time, he lived according to what he believed. He always held the spiritual truths from the heavenly texts in his mind, and he acted accordingly. As a result, the new birth became available. And from that day on, the gift of holy spirit has been available to anyone who believes. We are three things: body, soul, and spirit. By the spirit that works within you, we are connected with everything, God, the universe, fish, women, etc. And that spirit is called power from on high.

• Luke 24:49, "Behold, I send the Promise of My Father upon you; but tarry in the city of Jerusalem[a] until you are endued with power from on high.”

For Renewing Our Minds

In our day and time, we have been given a great resource to use in renewing our minds. As we renew our minds to the spiritual truths that are available to us, our minds are coordinated and in harmony with our spirit. We want the whole package of body, soul, and spirit to be in alignment and harmony to bring forth the power of God in manifestation. 

Meditate

Since thought comes before action, we want to first think about what we want to think about. Let's take a quick look at a few verses that we can mindfully apply to our lives today. 

• Romans 8:4-5, "So that the righteous and just requirement of the Law might be fully met in us who live and move not in the ways of the flesh but in the ways of the Spirit [our lives governed not by the standards and according to the dictates of the flesh, but by the Spirit]. For those who are according to the flesh and are controlled by its desires set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the Spirit."

In the previous verse, the "ways of the flesh" refer to the things of this world. I see many childrens' minds being set upon the media of this world. In contrast, we focus on the things of the spirit. We are spiritually minded and enjoy a life with peace. 

• Romans 8:6, "Now the mind of the flesh, which is sense and reason without Spirit, is death. But the mind of the Spirit is life and peace both now and forever."
  

The renewed mind is what allows us to enjoy fellowship with God so that our lives are rich, full, and fruitful. 

• Romans 8:7, "The mind of the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit itself to spiritual truths." 
  

The mind of the flesh, one that is consumed by the world, is against what's available from God. The renewed mind is opposite from enmity. 

• Ephesians 4:24-32, "Put on the new nature (the regenerate self) created in God’s image, Godlike in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore, rejecting all falsity and being done now with it, let everyone express the truth with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one body and members one of another. When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. Leave no such room or foothold for evil. Give no opportunity to it. Let the thief steal no more, but rather let him be industrious, making an honest living with his own hands, so that he may be able to give to those in need. Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give unconditional love to those who hear it. And do not grieve the Spirit, by which you were sealed and secured for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another readily and freely."

We put off the old man and put on the new in response to God's great love for us.

• 2 Timothy 2:15, "Study and be eager and do your utmost to present yourself to God approved, a workman who has no cause to be ashamed, correctly analyzing and accurately dividing rightly handling and skillfully teaching the Word of Truth.

We choose what to study, like good workmen. And as we continue to read and study the spiritual truths that are available to us, we get that light of God in our thinking.

• 1 Timothy 4:13-16:, "Devote yourself to reading, to exhortation, and to teaching and instilling doctrine. Do not neglect the gift which is in you, that special inward endowment which was directly imparted to you by the Spirit by prophetic utterance when the elders laid their hands upon you. Practice and cultivate and meditate upon these duties. Throw yourself wholly into them, so that your progress may be evident to everybody. Look well to yourself and to your teaching. Persevere in these things, hold to them, for by so doing you will save both yourself and those who hear you.
  

We don't neglect what has been given to us. But instead we meditate upon these spiritual truths. And in doing so, our profiting appears to all. And this brings wholeness not only to ourselves but to people around us. 

According to the Theological Wordbook of the Old Testament, "meditate" means to rehearse and go over a matter in one's mind. New Wilson's Old Testament Word Studies says that "meditate" means to talk with oneself. Biblically to meditate means to focus and rehearse one's thoughts on something so as to understand it deeply. As we rehearse in our minds the spiritual truths that are available to us, we can put an end to suffering and live a life that is abundantly filled with joy, peace, and love.

Conclusion

Let's hold spiritual truths in our minds and act accordingly. Let's not be limited and tied up in our lives. You're more than a tropical fish. You're child of God. You hold the key to power in your life. Let's renew our minds by meditating upon spiritual truths and release the exceeding greatness of God's power in our lives and others whom we love. 


You may be interested in learning how your spirit makes your work fruitful and who is God.

Tell the woman you love to read The Queen's Guide.