Being a great husband and father takes time. You're not the best from the get-go. You're not born a great husband or father. Actually, just to be a "good" husband and "good" father takes an enormous amount of time, years. So, you have to choose. Which are you going to work to be excellent at? Family life? or work life?
Trying to figure out how to balance your work life with your personal life can be a challenge. Being successful in both personal and occupational at the same time would be ideal. However, to be excellent in either requires investing all, that's all, of your time.
Let me ask: How much time to you work on your job? How much success do you need in your work to support your life style? How much time are you investing in your pursuit of excellence in your business?
I read once that to be "excellently successful in business" takes investing an enormous amount of time. Hard-working professionals invest massive amounts of time, dedication and energy to to be excellent in business. You have to. To be excellent in business, requires total commitment, like a professional athlete that live to be the best they can be, to dominate in their sport, and do what they were put on Earth to do, as they understand it.
My question is: At what expense? Is the time you're investing in making money too much? Are you cutting short your family time in order to be good at your work? Are you cherishing your customers more than your children? Are you cuddling your clients more than your wife? Do you think upon your work schedule, more than your home schedule?
The truth is: you can't be excellent in both. You have to decide. Do you want to be excellent in your work or in your life? It's really one or the other. Choose.
Since you're reading this, I'm assuming you chose life.
Being who you are is an ongoing, lifelong process. At times of meditation or prayer, its starts with connecting to who you are at the most deepest level of yourself. When you're quiet and meditating, when you are at the most relaxed, quite, and easy state of being, you get closer to who you really are. Your wife, children, job, and art are important in your life, but they can not connect you to your source of being.
How many hours today did you focus on your job, your work, and your occupational responsibilities? And how much time did you invest in focusing your attention to yourself and your source of being? What happens when you try to switch from your daily routine and busy work schedule to an effortless subsidence into self awareness and the universal energy that surrounds you and is within you.
God is present everywhere. It's written that we should seek this universal spirt (call it God), in hopes that we might feel that energy and find that source, even though it's not far from each one of us. Within that omnipresent energy, we move, live, and have our being, because we were born from it. [Acts 17:27-28]
This source of energy, I call it God, is never changing and is always present. This energy is literally light, lightness, and does not vary, and it does not cast your shadow. [James 1:17] It's that constant tone behind the music of life. Find that energy. Feel it within you and around you. And then, move into life from that source.
Approach life with this sense of energy or enlightenment. Re-approach your work, your family, your lover. Want to make more money? Want to be a better father? A better lover? Yes, of course. You can't do it alone; you won't be able to attain success in any aspect of life on your own, disconnected from that which you spring, within which you move and live, and from which you are inspired. You must connect always with God, your energy source. [John 5:30]
To connect and stay connected takes a determined effort and practice. Read books that remind you of who you are. Ephesians is a good one. Spend time with folks who inspire you and support your life. Hang out with those who study upon the truths of life as you do. Meditate, think, dwell upon, and pray daily to steep yourself in the source. It often feels as though you're swimming in a deep pool of water, but you don't get wet, because it's all energy.
Do not neglect the spirit which is in you, which was given to you by God. Practice, cultivate, and meditate upon these things. Throw yourself wholly into them, so that your progress may be evident to everybody. Take care of yourself, your deepest being. Take care of your life and persevere in your efforts. By doing so, you will save both yourself and those around you. [1 Timothy 4:14-16]
If you're like me, you're often consumed by the daily trivial things in life, the events and tasks of the day. The weekend flies by, and you didn't get to have any real fun. Well, don't let this happen. Don't let 10 years get behind you ["Time" by Pink Floyd].
Pull the plug on the TV. Log out of Facebook. Put down your phone. Get off-grid. Stop texting back. None of the stuff that has ever happened has made any real difference to who you are. Disconnect. I dare you. Don't let your attention be absorbed by things that really don't matter.
Know God. Open your eyes. Your mind and body will follow. Let your "eye" be a lamp of the body. And if your eye (or the stuff which you focus upon) is correct and healthy, then your whole body will be full of light. You'll be enlightened. [Matt 6:22]
The Vince Camuto cologne for men is a good cologne for the work office. I recommend it.
It's not too strong. It smells good, with a bit of citrus and black pepper and nutmeg. And there's a smell of woody musk. I like the leather material that wraps around the bottle. My wife loves it too.
Get yours at Macy's.