Behind every great man...

A man can't be a king without a queen. A man can achieve great things in life when he has a great woman by his side. A man can do many wonderful things on his own, but a great woman can make every moment in life like a gift from God.

A woman shares equally in the responsibility for the family. This is a sacred responsibility for the family's success. She is a partner, yet strongly independent. She supports her husband and makes him feel like a king. She has a desire, often greater than the man's, for the children's health, maturity and prosperity. Mothers tend to work tirelessly to create and maintain a happy home and raise healthy children.

She is in ways dependent upon her husband, particularly for his leadership, decisions and actions. She deserves to receive full understanding and deep appreciation from her husband. She works to be in alignment and harmony with her husband in achieving her personal goals, and expects to receive his understanding, unselfishness, and unconditional love. She believes in her man and trusts him just has he does her.

A great woman is someone who loves you and supports you. She wants to feed you. Make you look really good in them jeans. Wants to help you keep fit and sexy. She loves your smell. Loves your voice and wants to hear you talk about your day, your challenges and your dreams. She leans on you. Loves your children. And very importantly, love you, even with your flaws. And, yep, you certainly have a few.

A great woman is intelligent, warm-hearted, and unselfish. Physcially strong and healthy. Intelligent and tends to be innately in-tuned with what's most important in any situation. She wants to see you do good in the world, and wants you to be successful. She speaks well of you, especially when you're not around. She loves to smile at you. And she reaches out to you to hold your hand.

Your woman should expect you to be a gentleman. She should expect you to speak intelligently, have good manners, and be romantic. A great woman expect her man to defend her, stand up for her and her interests. She expects all things things from you, and more.

Your woman wants you to be chivalrous. On dates, well, first, take her out on dates. Then, hold the door open for her; pull her chair out for her; allow her to order first; stand up if she stands up to leave the table; stand up when she returns to the table; rise to your feet when she enters a room; compliment her; ask her to dance; when walking, place yourself to protect her from traffic or puddles and offer an arm; offer her your coat if she's cold; and thank her for the date. If you're woman expects you to act chivalrous on a date, you've found yourself a great woman, get on your knees and propose your undying love for her. 

I can't think of any great king in history who didn't have an amazing woman by his side. If you want to have everything in life you can think of (financial, physical, spiritual, emotional, sexual, intellectual, etc), find yourself a great woman. And keep her forever. Love her as you would love yourself.

You may be interested in reading "Work and Woman" from The King's Guide.

It was once said that the character of a man starts from his shoes and works its way up. The photo above is of my old work shoes. So, let's talk about a man's character. His role. Starting not with his shoes, but with his responsibilities as a man. 

In my opinion, a man's most important responsibility is to be:

• a guide,
• a protector, and
• a provider.

Just As a King

Just as a king is the head of his kingdom, so a man can be the head of the family (by proper arrangement and deliberate decision between the couple within the relationship). The man is built to be a protector of women and children. A man's body is large, strong and can endure. A man's temperament is adapted to be complementary to the position he bears. 

My Usefulness

My usefulness to my community is principally realized as I build a strong home, nurture a loving marriage and produce good kids.

My Failure 

A man's greatest failure would be to fail in his home. If his children are unruly, if his marriage is troubled, if his home is not peaceful, then he has failed. He has failed in the his most fundamental duty as a mature man. And no success in life can compensate for that failure. A man often feels that he is principally responsible for the family's success or failure. And other men who are married with children will judge that man based upon his family. 

When a man is successful in being a guide, protector and provider; when his children grow up to be happy, smart, good kids; when he acts has the head of this household and rules it with leadership and love; and when he and his wife live in unconditional love and mutual respect, then he has made the most notable contribution to the world.

This is man's basic role. 

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