Each of us, men and women, has both masculine and feminine qualities. Some people are more masculine (typically men). Some are more feminine (typically women). And some are in the middle. Most of us (about 85% of all men and women) are either more masculine or more feminine. And here's the beauty of relationships: we tend to attract our sexual opposite. And this attractive force is just like a magnet, flowing between the two opposite poles. It's the juice in a relationship.
Many men have strong feminine qualities: we can wear jewelry; we write poetry; we sing and dance; we express love; we cry. Many women have masculine qualities: they have political power; they can be aggressive; they fight in the military; they play sports; they are CEOs. We know this to be true.
However, if you want real passion in your relationship, you need a strong "masculine" and a strong "feminine," a ravisher and a ravishee, and aggressor and aggressee. I'm not talking just about sex. I'm talking about life, and living with someone in all of its ways.
This attractive force in modern relationships often dies, because people think that relationships are built upon equal 50/50, politically-correct type of sameness. And that's not true. Neutrality and equal respect and treatment is expected in the workplace, but in a relationship, you need sexual attraction. Otherwise, the juice dries up.
We have made great progress in economic and social equality between men and women, but it has resulted in a lot of sexually-neutral relationships. The love is there, but the sexual polarity is faded. Not just in moments of sexual intimacy, but the entire relationship is dry. The passion for each other and with each other is gone.
Good, strong, healthy attraction is based upon sexual opposites. In your relationship with your woman, you want to keep this dynamic alive and abundant. If you want real passion, you need opposites - energetic polarity, an attractive difference between the masculine and feminine. Without that, you just have two friendly people touching each other here and there.
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