A king does not seek personal enlightenment through his work. Nor does he seek to find his life's purpose through his lover.
Work is for manifesting purpose. You lover, wife, companion is for unconditional, intimate love.
For a mature man, both work and your lover are where you give your all. Giving your gift. Expressing your purpose in life. But, your work is the manifestation of your purpose in life, that which you deliberately decide to give to others. Your lover is whom you intimately and without reservation share who you are.
This is where you experience and enjoy love. Making love and sharing it. And when you experience love, you become enlightened. Enlightenment does not come from your work. It comes from love. From your woman, your wife, your lover.
Tips for Men to Be Better Men, Wonderful Husbands, and Loving Fathers