Men's Advice to Women: Chase Your Dreams

Women, here's some advice from us men: We want you to chase your dreams. 

Don't sacrifice everything your entire life and set aside all of your dreams for your man and family. We don't want to be the source of your lifelong regrets. 

As a man, my personal goal is to look back on my life and have tremendous satisfaction on my experiences with serving others, daring greatly, loving unconditionally, and ending it all totally exhausted. I want my children to try everything and do whatever their passionate about. 

But my deep desire is for my wife, my love, to achieve her goals in life, whatever they may be. I want her to be giddy happy and fulfilled in her dream-pursuits. 

A woman should not make her man the reason for abandoning life aspirations.

I expect my wife to make sacrifices. And she expect the same from me. It's part of our partnership deal. But make sure you understand this: men really want their women to be happy. A great man is devastated when he realizes his woman is not happy and could not enjoy something she truly desired. A great man will love his wife in the same way he loves himself. You'll find that a man who loves his wife will also love himself. So ought men to love their wives as being in a sense their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself (Ephesians 5:28).

Have you said the following to your man?

• I wish we would have had another kid.
  
• I should have gotten my degree.
• I wish I took better care of myself.
  
• I should have traveled more when I had the chance.
  
• I should have done that, and now it's too late for me.
  
• I should have started my own business years ago.
• I'm too old to do that now.
  
• I would have really enjoyed doing that.
• That time has passed for me. 
  
• I didn't enjoy the kids when they were young. 

Those words could be a great open door to meaningful conversation with your man. Or it could be very damaging to your relationship. Take great care in starting conversations with your man beginning with those types of sentences. Be courageous to speak out and share your thoughts and dreams, but be careful. Your man could be caught by surprise. He may say something like, "You never mentioned this before to me." Or, "Go ahead. Who's stopping you?" Be careful. Sharing your heart can be a wonderful enlightening experience. Prepare yourself. Trust your husband.

Trust that your man wants to hear of your dreams and aspirations. He really does want you to be happy in life. A great man will do anything for you, and with you. 

Your man desires to live joyfully with you, whom he will love all the days of his life (Ecclesiastes 9:9). If you have goals, needs and dreams, tell your man. Sooner the better. And allow your man to share in your happiness of the pursuit.