Here's some of the things that I really enjoy: Seeing my wife smile and laugh, Bourbon on ice after a hard day at work, hearing my kids laughing, working on a house project that is physically demanding and makes my hands rough and dirty, smelly bubbly show soap, words spoken in love, a compliment on my looks or what I'm wearing, a good verse that applies to a life situation, mashed potatoes, vanilla ice cream, Pittsburgh Steelers, 70's Rock music, my wife's body inside a beautiful dress, touch, and a good meaty sandwich with crispy-cold lettuce and real mayo. I'll stop there. There's a lot more. But that's a pretty good list right there. Yup.
It's a good exercise to make a list of things that you enjoy. But the list not for you. It's for the person who loves you. My list is for my wife. It's not to bribe her. It's not for getting the right Christmas present. It's not to remind her of stuff I like. It's for helping my lover to fulfill her role as a giver. When my wife gives to me, she feels joy. Your lover is the one person in the whole wide world that knows you and knows what you need and knows how to fulfill your needs, wants, and desires.
The idea behind making a list is to have a method by which two people can work to fully integrated, aligned with each other, and balanced as one. Spiritually, it's not good to go through life alone. There are a lot of good spiritual truths in Ephesians 5:22-32. It's a great mystery how two people can become one.
Try making a list for your lover. Work together on it. Talk about it. It'll be fun, and it'll strike up a conversation that will be meaningful and enlightening, which is a lot more you'll ever get from a TV show. Show smash your TV, grab a pen and paper, and get to work!
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