Being a great husband and father takes time. You're not the best from the get-go. You're not born a great husband or father. Actually, just to be a "good" husband and "good" father takes an enormous amount of time, years. So, you have to choose. Which are you going to work to be excellent at? Family life? or work life?
Trying to figure out how to balance your work life with your personal life can be a challenge. Being successful in both personal and occupational at the same time would be ideal. However, to be excellent in either requires investing all, that's all, of your time.
Let me ask: How much time to you work on your job? How much success do you need in your work to support your life style? How much time are you investing in your pursuit of excellence in your business?
I read once that to be "excellently successful in business" takes investing an enormous amount of time. Hard-working professionals invest massive amounts of time, dedication and energy to to be excellent in business. You have to. To be excellent in business, requires total commitment, like a professional athlete that live to be the best they can be, to dominate in their sport, and do what they were put on Earth to do, as they understand it.
My question is: At what expense? Is the time you're investing in making money too much? Are you cutting short your family time in order to be good at your work? Are you cherishing your customers more than your children? Are you cuddling your clients more than your wife? Do you think upon your work schedule, more than your home schedule?
The truth is: you can't be excellent in both. You have to decide. Do you want to be excellent in your work or in your life? It's really one or the other. Choose.
Since you're reading this, I'm assuming you chose life.