You could probably describe your best friend's personality, distinguishing characteristics, favorite food, or hobbies. Right? Just as you can describe your friend, you can describe what God is. God gives us a description of himself in his Word, so that you can know God. Let’s learn about what God is by taking a look a few biblical verses. A quick study of the following biblical truths will help answer the question, “What is God? Creator
In Genesis 1:1, we see that God is a creator.
Faithful In Deuteronomy 7:9, God is faithful, which means reliable; trusted; true to one's word, promises, and vows.
Good Psalms 34:8 says that God is good.
Great Psalms 135:5 says that God is great.
Powerful Psalms 147:5 says that God is powerful.
Strong Isaiah 26:4 says that God is strong.
Spirit John 4:24 says that God is a Spirit, and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.
Not a Man Is God an old man with a big, bushy beard? No. Is God a man? No. Is God a woman? No. Is God Jesus? No. No to all of those questions. God is spirit, energy, light. The word “worship” in that verse is the Greek word pronounced "pros-koo-neh'-o," which means to reverence. Worship is a feeling, attitude or gesture of deep respect; an act of devotion; adoration, or manifestation or acknowledgement offered to God. And the word “spirit” in that verse is the Greek word "pneuma," which refers to the spiritual energy inside you. Spirit connects you to God and everything in the universe. You may want to read "Spirit is a Force" in TheKingsGuide.com. Peace God is peace in 1 Corinthians 14:33.
Father God is a father in 1 Corinthians 8:6, which says "But to us there is but one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we in him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we by him." Acknowledging God as a “father,” our heavenly father, help us realize all that he can and will do for us. Just as our earthly father has certain abilities that enable him to care for his children, God, our heavenly father, cares for us and fulfills his promises. Ephesians 1:3 says that "God is our heavenly father, and father of Jesus Christ." So, God is also a father to Jesus Christ, a wonderful spiritual man. Supplier Philippians 4:19 says that God is a supplier. And this is where where praying comes in. You may want to read "Trusting in God by Praying" in TheKingsGuide.com. Light 1 John 1:5 says that God is light. Light. God is energy and light. 2 Corinthians 4:18 says that we consider and look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen; for the things that are visible are temporal (brief and fleeting), but the things that are invisible are deathless and everlasting. When we live in the light, we see things others can not. The unseen things of the word become visible and known to us, and we thereby become wise. Love 1 John 4:16 says that God is love. That's pretty plain and simple to understand. What do you love? I love my wife, my children, pepperoni pizza, football, and many other things. But who do you love? Who? Wherever there is love between people, there God is. Conclusion In conclusion, we now have a pretty good description of God. A lot of people are always looking for evidence or proof of God existence. They do not see that God is all around us. He’s creation, goodness, peace, light, and love. Now, by studying God’s Word, we have a pretty good idea of who God is. Become a better husband, father and man. And learn how to live like a king. The King's Guide provides tips for men. Please follow @TheKingGuide on Instagram. A man will have an affair for two reasons: to escape and to feel young. They have an affair to escape the reality of their marriage. And, they have an affair to feel young again. Essentially, they are in search for some type of meaning to their lives outside of their marriage.
It's not always all about sex. Men are emotional beings. They want to be appreciated. They want to feel desired and loved. They want to be the most important thing in their woman's life. They want to feel like their first. Some men cheat also to sexually experience different things; they are not satisfied at home. And some men with power and influence simply attract more opportunities to be tempted. So, how does this happen? It usually begins with indifference. Things are not the same. She's just different. We've grown separately. We just see things differently. We no longer do things together. Or, you may have no explanation. Things are just different. Your marriage is boring. Conversations are no longer fun, but difficult. Good times are few and far between. You had more fun when you were both younger. The thrill is gone. You're distant. No one loves a ball buster either. Fighting, arguing, and criticism can all add to the discontentment in a marriage that sets the guy off to seek another lover. If you stop loving each other, if you stop having sex often, then a lot of frustration can begin to grow and fester. Particularly for a man, this frustration may seem excessive and overly burdensome. A man without a good sexual relationship with his lover is a man who's open to temptation. Whatever the relationship dynamic though, there's no good excuse for a man to open himself up to temptation. And it may start with a smile. Her smile. Then later, the man starts to find reasons to bump into her and spend more and more time with her. Maybe during work, at the office, and maybe after work. The other woman seems to always be nice, smiling, and dressed sexy. And her legs. And she's young. And she enjoys things that he does and says. And the man starts thinking that maybe she'd like to get a drink, coffee or something else. And then, the innocent gesture starts to get a little tricky and sticky. Lines start to get blurred. The man looks forward to seeing her and meeting with her at other places. And he starts to maneuver away from his wife and friends when he's trying meet up with her again. "What's the harm?" he asks himself. "We're just talking." And the man allows himself to see how far this can go, before something really bad happens. And that's the hook. Spending time with another woman will certainly bring about some emotional strings. She'll seem genuinely concerned with his well-being and understanding of his situation and needs. This woman starts to move up in line, and the wife starts to take second place. The red light is flashing, but he's wearing dark sunglasses. It's simple. The man is tired of fighting and arguing at home, and with the other woman there is no disturbance. Now, this can go two ways. Good or bad. And, he thinks, "It's no big deal. I can handle this." He's starts to rationalize things with himself in his own mind. Can he handle this major decision? No. He can't. He's lying to himself, and, thereby, the enemy has won. The adversary has come in with stealth and won over the conversation taking place in the tempted man's head. Most men don't even realize what's really going on. It's a spiritual attack. And he's lost. Proverbs 7:21-23 makes it very clear, "With much justifying and enticing argument she persuades him. With the allurements of her lips, she leads him to overcome his conscience and his fears and forces him along. Suddenly he yields and follows her reluctantly, like an ox moving to the slaughter, like one in fetters going to the correction to be given to a fool, or like a dog enticed by food to the muzzle, until a dart of passion pierces and inflames his vitals. Then, like a bird fluttering straight into the net, he hastens, not knowing that it will cost him his life." Yep. Now, there's nothing wrong with a man desiring happiness and sexual fulfillment, but when he breaks his commitment to both wife and child, terrible things happen. When a man no longer is faithful to his wife, he's no longer faithful to God. God rewards the faithful who believe that He can provide and do more that we can ever ask or think. If the man is miserable in his marriage now, wait until he cheats on his woman. When a man leaves his wife for another woman, he breaks God's commandment. He's no longer walking in light (John 12:35). He's no longer protected. It's written in 1 John 5:18 that we know absolutely that anyone born of God does not deliberately and knowingly practice committing sin, but the One Who was begotten of God carefully watches over and protects him [Christ’s divine presence within him preserves him against the evil], and the wicked one does not lay hold, does not get a grip on him, or even touch him. The hook of adultery is that the grass is greener, that the other woman is more wonderful, and life will be better. The truth is: There's no "other" woman in the entire world who could completely fulfill a married man's needs. The problem with adultery is this: when a man leave his wife for another woman, he takes himself along for the ride. And he's the biggest problem. He's starting this "other" relationship with a crap-load of his same bad personalities and weaknesses. If you can't work it out with your current wife, what makes you think you can do better somewhere else? If you don't like what's cooking in your kitchen, change the ingredients! So, what can this man do? Change. The man who's tempted must stay on the right course, remain faithful in that challenging marriage, and God shall reward him. If he's involved, he's got to stop it. Immediately. Severely. And turn to a confidant, like another married man in his tight circle of friends. And seek guidance and direction from someone trusted. Then, go to work on finding and nourishing the love he still has for your wife. You may be interested in reading "A Woman's Basic Role" in The King's Guide and also reading "The Top 3 Keys in Marriage" from The Queen's Guide. Become a better husband, father and man. And learn how to live like a king. The King's Guide provides tips for men. Follow The King's Guide Google+ page. When it comes to being a father, there's one main principle to keep in mind: move as close to the target you can before shooting. Well, it's really my basketball rule for myself. You see, I'm not a very good basketball player. My free-throws are okay, but I have no long shot. So, my rule is to get as close to the hoop as possible before shooting the ball. From 30 feet from the hoop, I suck. From 3 feet, I'm amazing. Just as every shooter knows, the closer you are, the better.
As it is in basketball, or any other sport that has a target, the closer you are, the better. As you increase your distance from the target, even the smallest mistakes are magnified. And this principle can be applied to fathering. What's true in basketball is true in fathering. If you are going to be a great father, you have to get close. Close to your kid. How do you get close to your kid? Well, first. Think about your work. How many hours in the day are you away from your kids? Think about it. You all get up. It's a lot of running around and organizing. Some yelling. Shoving breakfast down. Slurping some re-heated day-old coffee. Kiss the wife. Give the kid a squeeze. Then you all separate and won't see each other until the evening. When you subtract driving and working, you have at best 2 hours with your wife and kid. Two hours. That's it. You'd better use it wisely. How? Get close. Increase your accuracy of being a great father by getting close. Physically close to your little one. Spend time being there, with them. Talk to them. Don't just ask, "So, how was school today?" Get into their lives. Ask questions. Get really involved. Consider:
One of the best things that I ever did to "get close" to my kids in order to increase my effectiveness as a father was to read to my kids every night before they went to bed. Short little stories for the kids, like Peter Rabbit, when they're less than 8 years old. And bigger stories, like the Lord of the Rings, when they hit 10 and 12 years old. Reading at night is awesome. Try reading for 45 minutes, then talk about what you've read for another 15. When the kids are very young, tell them some incredibly short bedtime stories, like:
Future generations are in your hands. Starting with you and how much time to spend closely with your kids. The choices you make now about your time will determine your family tree. If you get close to your kid, you're effectiveness as a great father increases. So, get close. Maybe your dad wasn't the greatest. May your parents sucked. Maybe you didn't have a good male role model to give you a clear picture of what you are to be as a husband and father. And maybe you don't have confidence in yourself. Well, that's what The King's Guide is for -- to provide some help. Don't look back 10, 15 or 20 years from now, and wish you had spent more time with your kids. Don't look back and wish you had done things a little differently with raising your children. Don't wish that you would have done better. Don't wait until your job changes. Don't blame your job's pressures for your inability to spend time with your kids. Don't use your work, your wife, or anything else as an excuse to be a great father. Your kid needs you right now. What are you going to do (after reading this)? Find your kid, and give him/her a hug. Ask them if they want to read a book tonight -- together. Ask them if they ever heard the one about the apple named Monday. Move in real close. You may want to read "Man's Basic Role" in The King's Guide. And you might also be interested in reading fromHubbyHubby.com "Playing with the Kids." Become a better husband, father and man. And learn how to live like a king. The King's Guide provides tips for men. Follow The King's Guide Google+ page. |
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